Secret Stuff by Laura Tremaine
Secret Stuff by Laura Tremaine
How have you changed in the last 10 years?
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How have you changed in the last 10 years?

A conversation with Meg Tietz on family life, career trajectories, and religious deconstruction

This spring I am coming out on the other side of something I didn’t fully know I was going through. A metamorphosis, if you will.

The last few years have held some emotional upheaval that I denied was internal for far too long. I blamed it on the pandemic, on moving houses, on hormones, on some specific relationship dynamics. And all of those things contributed to a low-level angst and discontent, but the circumstances happening outside of me have ended up being less important in the Big Picture than all that was shifting inside.

I mean, isn’t that always the way?

Anyway, in the last six months I’ve been connecting the dots and simply setting things down. Refusing to carry what is not mine or is keeping me from moving forward. It’s a lot of baggage, and some of it is very, very old. I’m going to write more about this soon.

But all of this has made me nostalgic and self-reflective. Right, right, I'm always nostalgic and self-reflective but it’s been even more intense. For reference, see my Journal Party a few months ago looking back on five years since the start of the pandemic. (That post-pandemic Journal Party replay is available for anyone who thinks it might be a worthy exercise.)

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And it also led a conversation last month that I want to share with you here. One of my oldest and dearest friends, pioneer podcaster, and fellow Substacker

and I had a long conversation around the prompt:

How have you changed in the last 10 years?

Who were you in 2015 and the years following? What is different about your life and ambitions and spirit now? We focused on the areas of family & home life, career paths, and the state of our spiritual/emotional selves.

This conversation aired as Ep 265 of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast, but I wanted to put it here for you as part of Secret Stuff AD FREE.

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Meg and I get really vulnerable in this conversation. We both say things we’ve never said on microphone before. I hope that listening to it sparks something in you about your past decade.

It’s just a really good journal prompt that might lead to an AHA moment, some pattern recognition, and a NOTICING of things you’re ready to release.

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Mentioned in this episode:

Meg's Deconversion Series on Substack (Part 1) and Part 2 and Part 3

Ep 235: 4 Lessons After Publishing 2 Books

Ep 34: The Robbery

Ep 194: On Endings and Intuition

As you listen (or if you’ve already listened), I’d love to hear your thoughts on how YOU have changed in the last 10 years. Click through to share in the comments.

And if you’re not a share-it-on-the-internet type of person, I hope you use this prompt as a conversation starter with friends, a partner, or of course as a journal prompt.

One of my mottos has always been

Let Yourself Change

but I think I forgot to apply it to myself sometimes.

We’re going to explore more on this topic over the next six weeks with some June Journal Parties on this theme.

Let Yourself Change,

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